2) People who say "God doesn't give you anything you can't handle".
3) People who say "Other people have it worse than you".
4) People who say "Why look to the past?"
5) People who say "Count your blessings".
6) People who say "When you have lemons, make lemonade".
7) People who say "Everyone has challenges", or the yeshivish way, "Everyone has their own peckel".
8) People who say "It's just a taavah".
9) People who minimize abuse victims.
10) People who critique things they have not experienced and can not relate to.
Adding 11) A mentsch tracht un gut lacht. A man plans and God laughs. (Ugh)
Bottom line - just carry your friends burden and say I'm sorry for what you are going through. I am here for you the best that I can be.
If you feel they are hurting themselves and/or they are asking for your advice, preface your response/commentary by saying "I can't relate to what you are going through but this is what comes to mind". Be extremely thoughtful and sensitive.
If you find that you can't respond to this with sensitivity or even if you are unsure; close your mouth. Zip it shut. Not a word.
No, I am not perfect in this regard but yes, I am cognizant of the need to try to be.
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